Not Quite A Yes Day
Thoughts on a YES day…
Since the beginning of my venture as a stepparent we have joked that im the “mean mom”. I have more rules and tend to be the one to say NO more often compared to the other parents. I will be the first to admit that I can be to strict.
I’m really working on saying Yes more and No less. I’m trying to let things slide and not be as bothered or upset with the little stuff. I don’t really know why I am the way that I am. Maybe it was the way I was raised…maybe its just who I am. Either way and no matter the reason I struggle with myself.
I want to be a fun carefree mom. I want to worry less and love more. I want to have adventures and do stuff. I want to be the mom they know they can always talk to no matter the content. I want to be the mom they can come to do the fun stuff.
Today is a start. Every day I restart. Today is Memorial Day, its Monday so no school for this holiday. With that Id like to thank all of our fallen Vets, our current solders, and our living Vets! My Grandfather was a Vietnam Vet and my father-in-law is a Vietnam vet as well! Thank you! I love you more than words!
For the last several weeks I’ve been saying affirmations to myself…out loud, in my head and writing them down. Yesterday I made a plan with the kids. That plan was this: We will have waffles for breakfast, watch a movie in our PJs, have lunch, go get ice-cream, (I brought them to the park to eat it and play as a surprise), set up the splash pad at home in the yard and this evening we will BBQ the fish the twins caught on the boat with their grandpa this weekend.
I’m the NO mom. I rarely have them eat desert after dinner but I like to put special treats in their lunches. They don’t get allowance for doing chores because I feel its part of learning responsibility and self worth but I often find things that I know they will love and surprise them when they get home from school. The kids don’t have daily screen time but we like to have one movie night a week.
Its not just important for them, I know its important for me. I want to know that my kids are HAPPY as well as fed, clothed, healthy and loved.
I want to just be Mom…Not “mean mom” just Mom.
Love and Prayers,
The Momma of the Black Hearts.
