Everyone Dreams a Little Different.
I’ve really been wanting to make a dream board. I have a board on Pinterest but it isn’t the same as seeing those things each day in your face. However, I’m faced with a little bit of an obstacle. My husband. Not really in a bad way but he just doesn’t have the same thoughts and feelings as I do when it comes to setting goals.
I’m a write it down type of person. He’s a “its in my head so it’s the same thing” type of person. I like to be able to look at it, see my progress or lack of and find a solution. He says he’s a realist and I say he’s negative….tomato/tamato!
We have talked about what most people probably talk about…a little piece of land to build our dream home on. Welp… this last year has put a real damper on him seeing the possibility of that still happening someday. Hundreds of people have moved to our area and forced the prices skyward. Him being said “realist” has got a bur up his bum and cant see how that dream could still be in our future.
My thoughts on this are that if we think we can’t then no…we can’t. Oh but if we believe we can then we CAN! Maybe our goals have been pushed from a three year to a five year. Maybe we down size our 3 acre dream to 1. That makes our goal more reasonable for the time being. So for now I’ll keep my chin up and my goals alive.
Some of the things I have on my currently non-existent dream board are a bathtub I can fully submerge in, a garden, a small library…all of which can be compact. I’ve always wanted a library! A small reading nook or window seat to sit and read ❤ *Swoon* It’s the little things really. Like an actual laundry room with a folding area…stainless steel appliances…or even better matte black! I for whatever reason really don’t care for white appliances…just a thing.
There are a lot of things that I have on my list. Traveling is on there for sure. Some of the things I have on there are just fluff stuff really. I don’t need them but I want them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having things on your list that are just icing. Its good to want the little things. Its you telling yourself you are worth those things. YOU deserve them. They can be yours. Hell they are yours, you just have to get to them.
Everyone dreams differently. Cars, homes, land, animals, toys of all sorts….whatever your dream, keep dreaming it. See it in your future. Feel it, know it, love it and embrace it. Speed bumps don’t have to be brick walls! Sometimes life throws a curve into our trail…neato! Now we have a little bit of new scenery. Roll with it. Go with it. Enjoy it and know that the end result will be the same. It will end with you meeting that goal, reaching that star and getting to that dream.
Our story didn’t start out all splendid and lovely. We had the same goals…but the steps to get there have periodically changed. Those changes have resulted in a large move, not knowing if the move was going to set us back financially (we didn’t want to be back in the hole), a whole new business plan (scary), paying off a good chunk of our debts, buying my current car with cash…not all of those things were on the top of our happy list. Lots of other things have taken us on a curvy ride.
Here we are, still living and dreaming and working as a team to get there. Our dream may take longer than others. Others may get what we have been wishing for before we do. Those others may have rushed their dream and in the mean time cut corners to get there. That may bite them in the proverbial ass later on. On the other hand the obstacles that have set us back may be the things that are actually setting us up to win.
Struggles suck. They set you back. They piss you off and dwindle that gleam of hope. Screw those obstacles! Fight for what you know you want and deserve! Ignore others negativity. Kill it with kindness and perseverance! Do you and make that dream a reality.
I cant sit here typing this pretending I’ve met every obstacle with grace… I have cried, fought and screamed. I wish I wasn’t this human. I have been angry, sad, mad, overwhelmed and down right negative. Though I have acted that way and wanted so very much to give up on so many things that seem trivial now…I have come through on top. I am here. I am happy. I am on my way to my dreams. I am doing this hand in hand with the man I have chose to spend my life with. The man I have chose as a partner. Together we can do anything!
We haven’t been hand in hand on all of this. we stood distant from one another and fought on different sides for the same things. we have come a long way. A very bumpy, pitted, frustrating way. It has been quite the journey. Here we are. We have some how shouted ourselves into understanding better, listening better and in the end fighting better.
We still argue but we do it knowing we need to hear not just listen. That we both likely want the same result. We are in fact two different people and there is an age gap. We slow down and explain. We slow down and see it how they do. Not always but usually. If we can’t then we still try to have some understanding.
At the end of the day we are partners with the same dreams and goals. This is OUR life. We have chose to dream and reach together.
As always, thank you for reading my little tidbit. Love, Prayers and happy thoughts.
Love,
The Momma of those Black Hearts